GBE2 administrator, the distinguished Miss Beth has instructed that this week we should set a timer and write for 15 minutes without preparation or plan. Free write from the mind for 15 minutes, word purge, anger, resentment, random ramblings, whatever. While many will not post these writings, I shall decide in the next 14.5 minutes what shall be the destination of my free writing. "Post" or "Delete".
Can't help but think of the holidays and since today I turned 62, my birthday, and those things lead to looking ahead with what I may or may not have learned from my past. I always hope to learn from my mistakes and I always hope to learn from other's mistakes as well. I had several opportunities this year to learn. I made a couple of pretty monumental mistakes and I witnessed and was on the receiving end of a few more. Mistakes are not usually fatal, but they surely can cause long lasting negative effects.
I have seen one person cause so much pain and disruption with selfishness that that person is now excluded from the lives of others who once were pretty much the center of the world they shared. Selfishness, I learned is a fast track to loneliness. If one is truly selfish, being alone is the right choice. If one is just spoiled and acting selfishly, then changes need to be made quickly before being alone is the only option.
I also learned that speaking one's mind can be very helpful, if the words are chosen carefully and if not, it can be very damaging. One must choose the right words, spoken at the right time and with the right amount of love, concern and encouragement, if they are to have the desired result. That being, the person being given those words to become a better, more capable and more giving person.
I hope I learned also that giving of oneself in terms of actual face time, is essential to healthy and thriving relationships. I am not so much a magnet as I am a hand reaching out to those I hold most dear.
Time is almost up...the last thing I learned is to make every minute count. You don't have a clue how many minutes you have left...........*ding*