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HOPELESSLY DEVOTED


Hopelessly Devoted
August 28, 2012

Devotion is such an all consuming decision. In my own life I have not been devoted to a lot of things, but those I have are things which still have my complete devotion. 

I am devoted to keeping my family a unit. Not a bunch of individuals who share me, but a real connected body of humans who genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I am devoted to having my grandchildren grow up knowing and loving each other and having memories of spending time with Grandma Jo and Punkin. I want them to remember our house as a fun place with lots of hugs, kisses, laughs and good food.  I want their parents to be close throughout their lives, even after I am gone. So often you see families disintegrate after the mother passes. I so hope that isn’t the case for my family.

I am devoted to my marriage. I will not divorce again and I will not live in a miserable marriage, so I have devoted myself to making this marriage a good one. We like each other and I find that to be a very helpful tool in keeping us close and out of harm’s way. Our arguments are few and far between and I am pleased about that. I do not like arguments. I do not like drama and I do not like being angry. It has taken a few years to figure it out, but I now understand no one can really make me angry, I have to get there on my own. Someone can give me a reason to be angry, but it’s up to me to go there or stay calm and in my happy place. Sarcasm sometimes helps me out with that because sarcasm makes me happy.

My husband is not a push over, but he can be persuaded many times with logic and if that fails, threats. It works for me and sarcasm is often lost on him, so that works, too.

If he cannot be persuaded, then because I am devoted to him, I understand the issue is important to him and I give in. That works, too.

I am hopelessly devoted to being the best daughter my mom could want. I want to know that there is nothing she wishes I would do that I haven’t already done or plan to do very soon. Her comfort and her needs and wants are my priority as this point in my life and I am devoted to her simply because I love her and she needs me.

Devotion comes easily when your target is something or someone you admire, love, worship or need. My devotion is given to those people in my life who mean the most to me and also to a few causes or charities that I hope will change the world and also to my own mental and physical health.

I am devoted to God. I am devoted to living my life in grace. 

I need to maintain a certain amount of good health in order to carry out my devotion to others, so I try to do that. Sometimes, I’m good at it, sometimes the Twinkies, the  chocolate cake, Belgium Dark Chocolate, chips with Nutella or French fries win.

My mental health is preserved (?) by writing. All the words that bang around in my head all day and some nights must be written or typed. The stories must be shared. The thoughts or lessons or ideas must be documented because being hopelessly devoted to sanity seems a good thing.

And right this minute I am devoted to getting this posted and getting some sleep. 

Jo

23 comments:

  1. Idealistic yet practical. (A combination I like, personally.)

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    1. Thank you so much! Glass half full kinda gal. But life is real and sometimes well, ya just gotta go with it.

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  2. Jo, we are so much alike. I think we'd get along great... I'm devoted to family, marriage and my husband, and i also prefer my calm, happy place over drama... Great thoughts. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. I replied to this on my phone, but apparently, it has evaporated so...new thoughts.

      I know this is true. We have many of the same values and certainly enjoy many of the same things.

      Here's to our happy places getting us to the end of the road. :-)

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  4. Chips with Nutella? I could have lived my life out without that suggestion... Now I will have to try it. LOL

    I am devoted to the same things you are, except I always call it committed. It took me a few years to understand that I married a GREAT guy - that is what I discovered when I made an effort to stop picking him apart all the time....

    With both parents gone, I find a new devotion to my sisters. Sadly, that was missing for many years as we each went about our lives in different ways and in different places. Somehow losing both parents have drawn us close again... Or maybe it's just old age reminding us that we need each other.

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    1. The chips dipped in Nutella is really good.

      The word committed to me seems more of a demand and devotion feels more like something I just enjoy and don't want to let go of, ever. Thus, I like it for these areas of my life. The loves of my life get my devotion. And of course, I didn't mention the furbabies, but they also have my complete and utter devotion! ♥

      My sister and I are very close, my brother and I don't talk as often nor do we see each other often, but as a family, we always manage to come together and give up selfishness for Momma's sake. I think we will always be close and I think our mutual love will always be there, but I have seen it in other families where I never thought I would. I pray we always think of each other as our closest and most constant contacts.

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  5. I give you another twist. Devotion also can lead to stability which to me is such a beautiful word. Stability provides peace and comfort. Maybe by your devotion you are providing stability to those around you and as a result gaining stability and devotion yourself. Beautiful words. Thanks for Sharing!

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    1. I like the way you think Miss Shelley. Stability is a good word and something I have and require in my life. I hope I am giving some to the others in my life and I am quite certain I get it in return.

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  6. I respect your pragmatism. Thank you so much for sharing your insights.

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    1. Me pragmatic? Maybe. :-)
      I appreciate how you always see me. ♥

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  7. You had sweet dreams, I know you did, and you had every right to them :)

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    1. I can't say because I seldom remember my dreams, but I did wake up full of energy this morning and very well rested.

      Thanks my friend for your good thoughts.

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  8. I especially like your devotion of making a family one unit --a memorable connection!

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    1. Yep...out of my control for sure, but something I just nag and talk about all the time. Siblings can't be replaced by anything, holding them close your whole life is a goal.

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  9. I think I need to work on my devotions.

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    1. You do? Well, then get at it! We all need to be devoted to something!

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  10. I especially like your thoughts on being devoted to your marriage.

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    1. Thanks. He's a good man and I know how lucky I am this time around. ♥

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  11. Well said. I do believe there are somethings in life that require this level of devotion. It's easy to give up and move on. Much harder to do the deep dive analysis you've done to figure yourself out and work for what you want. I don't like being angry, either. It's a waste of energy.

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    1. Yep, it is hard to stay angry. My memory isn't good enough for fighting effectively so I had to give it up.

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  12. Reading this post makes me like you even more.

    Kathy
    http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com

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