I considered writing about living in the “now” and then realized that I have done that so many times under other topics, it would be overkill, sorta.
Looking back, looking ahead and living in the moment. All things in moderation, right? That’s how I live, I guess. Remembering, looking toward our future and appreciating exactly where I am in any given second of my life. ‘Nuff said about that.
Instead of rehashing all of that, I’m going here ~
The world in which we live is not the world I ever envisioned. When I thought of my future, back in the day, I imagined a laid back kind of golden age period. I imagined being content with very little and owning everything free and clear. I wanted an early retirement so that we could leave for the winters and enjoy the summers. I saw that in my dreams for many years. I would only see
snow winter when we
came home for the holidays and it would be a short visit.
That isn’t my now. We are happy with our life, but my roomy is still working 40 + hours every week because he isn’t ready to retire. He isn’t ready to enjoy the benefits of having worked for 55 years. I retired, for the second time, a year and a half ago and I have not looked back. I love having my own time to do what I please as well as my own time to do what needs to be done. When he’s ready, he’ll wonder why he worked so many years, I think. He could retire anytime now and I’d be good with that. For now, he’s content to work and I’m content to enjoy.
I also never imagined how children would change in a generation.
The children that are being raised now aren’t going to have the sense of responsibility that our generation’s children have. They have no place to learn that being a participant isn’t enough. They won’t know that sometimes, you need to win. They don’t even know that they haven’t won, because they got the same reward as those who excelled just for showing up. They are not accountable for their actions or their words. As adults they will be looking for recognition for mediocre work because that’s what they have known. It’s so sad to me that tomorrow’s leaders will not have the background to make their own way and won’t know how to make decisions. How would they know? They weren’t allowed to learn.
Parents are so involved in their kid’s school activities or sports or dance or music and both parent and child are running somewhere three or five nights a week after school and all summer. Everything is structured and planned and if today’s children aren’t attending some ‘program’ they are playing with electronics. This is certainly not true of all kids, of course, but it’s true of way too many. Just going outside and finding something to do with no guidance, using one’s own imagination to create a game of some sort, isn’t done much these days.
That’s the world we live in now. In many ways it’s so much better than when I was raising kids and in some ways it’s so much worse. I think some big giant steps backward wouldn’t really hurt, but that’s just an old lady talking.