My life was recently upset. My daughter had a stroke 2 weeks ago and at age 42, not what anyone expected. Her blood pressure had been normal, her cholesterol was excellent and she isn't obese nor did she have any of the other warning signs. These things happen and this one happened to my baby girl. I was a wreck here in my safe little world a 9 hours drive from her. I just returned from a couple of days of 'mothering' my recovering daughter and my life is no longer upset. She is doing well and in a couple of months, she will be herself again. She is a remarkable woman and I know her recovery is on track. What else could a mom ask? Nothing.
I left our home for 4 days to be with her and I imagine I upset the whole routine here while I did that. Roomy was working out of town and had to drive over an hour every night to return to the furbabies for feeding and bonding time. He also had to feed himself. I might not be necessary for their well being, but I am appreciated. Having Mom out of the house for a few days reminds them how much they like having me around. That's just not a bad idea! The home front is not upset now and everyone is settled back into our usual routine one day after my return.
Being upset is one of the most uncomfortable feelings I ever experience. I can handle sad, I can handle hurt and I can even handle chaos, but I have trouble with upset. For me, upset means things are not right and out of my control. Things happened that I didn't see coming and I cannot do a single thing, but pray. I pray, I wait and I learn. I learn that what God has planned is possibly not for me to know, but I will have the strength and the will to get through it, whatever it is. I might also be given the ability to help someone else through the upset, maybe not. I'm glad I never have to face upset on my own.
Of course, there is always the good upset! The one where you are not expecting a good thing in your routine day to day and all of a sudden here it is! Like an old friend who was passing through town and just decided to stop in! How nice is that? Upsetting? In a good way, yes it is. How about the unexpected delivery? I've had flowers for no reason, very nice. I've gotten boxes from FedEx that I didn't order, gifts from someone, unexpected and very nice! Upsetting my regular routine yes, but in such a nice way. Out of my control and wonderfully so!
And finally, the team you cheer for every game is not expected to win, in fact being from Michigan that could be every Sunday for the last 50 years, has a great game and wins. This year they had an upset season! Being a Lion's fan has not always been easy and it was nice this year to hear other teams called the underdog, but the season still had a couple of upsets.
Everyone's life has upsets and everyone has their own way of dealing with the aftermath. For me, it's just a matter of time. Time to evaluate, adjust and pray.
For, with God in your life, all things are possible and His will shall be done.
Jo
Great thoughts on the way to be upset Jo. Glad your daughter is doing well. And that you were able to help here out. :-)
ReplyDeleteThank you, I don't know if I helped as much as I was helped. Nothing like your own eyes to see and your own hugs to feel. :)
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ReplyDeleteSo glad to hear you got to go down and spend some time with your daughter--and put your mind at ease that she's going to be fine!! How awesome!!
ReplyDeleteI'm from Michigan originally--the two teams I love from Michigan is the Lions and the Redwings :) The Lions had a good season!!
Great post on Upset! :) Cheers, Jenn
Thx Jenn...I am not a big sport fan, but I do love the Tigers. Otherwise, it's just on. lol
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your good thoughts on Jayne, she is really improving daily. :) ♥
Well done Jo! I think you covered every possible connotation of the word. Now there's nothing left for the rest of us! Guess what that makes me: Upset!
ReplyDeleteOnly kidding, and I'm glad your daughter is doing better. I will join you in praying for her solid recovery.
Somehow I feel certain you will think of something to dazzle us with on this topic! Thanks for the prayers. She's on her way, but we don't want to quit now. ♥
DeleteGreat post Jo. You're right, it's easy to get upset about things we can't control but God has a plan and purpose!
ReplyDeleteI think it's even okay to get upset, but then remember you're not in anything alone. He'll get you through. ♥
DeleteI'm so glad that your daughter is on the mend and that you got to be with her. I'm sure that was good for both of you.
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Thanks for all of your support Beth. It matters to me that so many of these writers and now friends prayed and kept in touch, just checking. WOW. It was sure good for me!
DeleteThanks ... award? Me? You Like me? You really like me? Oh my goodness, what can I say? Who do I thank? *key the music and shut her the hell up!*
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That's so scary! I'm glad she is doing well. And may you day be "upset" in a very good way. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Maggie! May I wish the same to you? It's all good. ♥
DeleteGlad your daughter is doing better. Our minister's daughter went thru a similar experience at about the same age. Can't imagine what it must be like to be so young and have a stroke, but she's done well, and sounds like your daughter is, too.
ReplyDeleteShe is and it is totally scary. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. A stroke just seems to come from out of the blue and can be devastating, luckily she is doing really well.
DeleteLooks like I learned a new meaning for that word "upset!" :D
ReplyDeleteWhat a refreshing take on the subject.
Hope your daughter will continue to be in good health.
Thanks so much. She's a trooper. See? Not all upsets are bad. Wishing you some good ones! ♥
Deletelike mike said, you really covered all the bases here!...glad your daughter is recovering - how frightening. - and glad you had the opportunity to stay with her. ( ~ and so true, it is nice to be missed when the routines are upset ~ )
ReplyDeleteThanks Sylvie...I think it's a good reminder to both of us to be on our own every now and again. When you are the one left home with ALL the responsibilities that you usually share, it's not a bad thing! He does appreciate what I do in his life and I totally appreciate that he takes the garbage out and brings the cans back up. LOL
DeleteThrough the upset time and able to see, touch and hear that she is well, now time to rest and trust that all is well. Velda
ReplyDeleteSo true, I am good now. :)
DeleteDear Jo, all will be well, thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteIt is getting better every day. Thank you. ♥
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. I can't imagine dealing with something like that. Keeping you and her in my prayers
ReplyDeleteThank you Stacy, it's all good. She is doing well and I am very uplifted by her progress to date.
DeleteThanks so much for the ongoing prayers.
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doesn't make sense does it.....so young..and a stroke? something else fishy about it all..and yet even that..doesn't matter..what does matter how we respond..and YOU have passed all the tests 20 x's over...rest assured you know how to get to the answer EVERY time..and in this..we..are blessed..to call you friend. Now to have you as a MOM..wow...all of heaven REJOICES! hehe MUAH!
ReplyDeleteOh Brenda, thank you. I know she will be fine and I got to hug and smooch on her and spend a couple of days (including her birthday) just being her mom. It was so good for me and I hope for her.
DeleteYou always make me feel so special. thanks so much. ♥♥
You had a perfect reason to be upset!! Wow, prayers for her continued recovery! I am so sorry to hear this but glad you were able to go be with her when she needed you the most. It is so hard to make sense of things like this when they happen. They just reinforce how precious and short life is.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you Jo.
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I appreciate your good thoughts Kathy. I loved my time with her and I got to see for myself that she is absolutely on the mend. I don't need to make sense of any of it, it is what He intended and He will get her through it. As for me, my medicine was just being with her. ♥
DeleteJo, your beginning gave me a shock when I first read it. My brother passed away four years ago from a massive stroke at age 55. I was so relieved to discover that your daughter is recovering and making such wonderful progress. God will see you through and bless you all.
ReplyDeleteHe is and she is doing well. Medical testing is taking longer than she hoped, but it'll all get done in good time. ♥
DeleteJo, I can relate to the "upset" feeling of being out of control while the moment is off kilter, it's not a comfortable feeling. I am really happy that your daughter is doing well, that is not an easy thing to go through for any one, but you maintain such grace under pressure.
ReplyDeleteHope you are doing better! (((hugs))) back pain sucks. She is doing well and thank you so much. ♥
DeleteSo glad your daughter is doing okay. I agree, being 'upset' is one of the hardest and most uncomfortable feelings to cope with. Like you, I want to be in control, and not have my world shift off its axis.
ReplyDeleteThat in control thing wears me out sometimes! God is so much better at that than I am! ♥
DeleteLovely, lovely post Jo. I pray for a complete recovery for your daughter. Sometimes, its hard to understand why things happen the way they do, but like you, we have to trust God completely.
ReplyDeleteI spent no time wondering why, only hoping they could determine how much risk she has going forward. No answer to that one yet.
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Jo, I know that had to be the scariest experience for all of you. I am so glad things worked out well. God is full of wonderful blessings. Beautiful take on the prompt.
ReplyDeleteNot sure what's up here, but I can't reply in the reply box...so Kat, thank you so much. She is doing well though still tiring out very quickly. She is ready to be "whole" again, but it will take time. Again, thank you for caring and reading. ♥
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear your daughter is doing well. Great post for the prompt. love and hugs.
ReplyDeleteThank you Suzy. ♥ and hugs right back at cha.
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