There is hardly anything that will push me away from someone faster than a negative attitude. If a person can only see the dark side of anything, I will be moving along. I don't believe in living in denial, by any means, but I do believe in looking for the good. Is there always good? Nope. But that doesn't stop me from looking. It keeps me from being swallowed by negativity and drowning in the aftermath. It is my duty to seek the positive.
Do you do the same? I know many do not, but for me, it can be a life saver.
My sense of "everything has a purpose" has lead me to the more positive side of life. It has also kept my mind occupied so it can't dwell on the negative.
The few negative people I know well are the same people who seem to have lives filled with drama and problems. They are the same people who never seem to make good choices. They also are the people who jump in and out of relationships with great abandon. Jobs often come and go for them. I have noticed many times these problems and circumstances are often self-inflicted. Of course, I mean they are brought about by the choices the person made. The people they choose for their companions and even for their life mates. They choose negative things. They choose people and jobs and even things that have more problems or difficulties which they can't control, than the person already had in their own life. I also find these people, for the most part, to be the kinds who take no responsibility for anything that happens in their own world. The world they filled with negative things and people.
The opposite seems to be true of positive people.
The person who concentrates of the positive aspects in their life usually have less complicated lives and much more easily achieve success as defined by the person who is living this life. Success is such a difficult concept, but I think it's a personal thing to define. The one thing that isn't up for debate is that people who view life from a positive, not Polly Anna, but still light attitude will find happiness. They will find it because they will look for it. Realism should be included in the mix, facing what is real doesn't mean you can't also stay hopeful. That is the balance we should be seeking.
Out with the nay sayers and in with the yes we canners!
Jo
Jo --I've always been a realist. I call a spade a spade--but over the years I've learned that having an attitude of gratitude is a way to stay focused on what is important, it keeps me from being negative for the most part and it keeps me from being super bubbly positive. I like to keep things real. I enjoy saying YES I CAN as often as I can, but if you were to ask me to run a marathon--I'd politely decline as I do know my limitations, but I'd be the first to say I'd cheer you on in your endeavors-- make sense??
ReplyDeleteGreat post JO!! Thanks for sharing :) Cheers, Jenn.
Yep, it does! I feel like knowing your own limitations is first and foremost a very positive thing to do. It eliminates a negative outcome when you fail at something you never should have attempted!
DeleteRealism doesn't equal negativity in my book.
The dark side has pull with some, me I grasp the light and hold tight, I know my God is there and trust him, way easier.
ReplyDeleteYessiree! That's my motto..."You get this one God, I can't seem to manage it!" He always says, "Okay".
DeleteHear, hear. Life is full of choices and I choose to be happy. Good post Jo.
ReplyDeleteI obviously have made the same choice. Thank you Kelly. ♥
DeleteWhen I was in junior high (middle school to all you young whippersnappers), all students, boys and girls, had to take both home ec and shop. I preferred shop. The teacher was a patient, kind, elderly man, meaning probably at least 40. : - ) Every time one of us said, "I can't do this," he'd counter with, "Success comes in cans." Now, every time I start to say I can't, I think of him. I think I have a pretty positive attitude, and part of it comes from him.
ReplyDeleteThat is wonderful that you had such a man in your life. We all need someone when we are young to put one of those sayings into our lives.
DeleteMine was a man who said..."If you can conceive it, you can believe it and then you can achieve it."
Love those words.
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Jo, you and I are SO on the same page with this. I am a preacher of being positive.
ReplyDeleteONLY good things can come from being positive. End of story. Being negative does no good what so ever. Being negative just leads to hurt feelings and just plain being in a bad mood and grumpy. I can't stand GRUMPY!
Life is too short to be grumpy. Being realistic is important, but once you've acknowledged the reality of something, react on it in a positive way!
Loved this post my friend!
You and I are often on the same page! Thank you for such a lovely comment. I am positively thrilled! ♥
DeleteYUP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteLOL...that's it! ♥
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