There is hardly anything that will push me away from someone faster than a negative attitude. If a person can only see the dark side of anything, I will be moving along. I don't believe in living in denial, by any means, but I do believe in looking for the good. Is there always good? Nope. But that doesn't stop me from looking. It keeps me from being swallowed by negativity and drowning in the aftermath. It is my duty to seek the positive.
Do you do the same? I know many do not, but for me, it can be a life saver.
My sense of "everything has a purpose" has lead me to the more positive side of life. It has also kept my mind occupied so it can't dwell on the negative.
The few negative people I know well are the same people who seem to have lives filled with drama and problems. They are the same people who never seem to make good choices. They also are the people who jump in and out of relationships with great abandon. Jobs often come and go for them. I have noticed many times these problems and circumstances are often self-inflicted. Of course, I mean they are brought about by the choices the person made. The people they choose for their companions and even for their life mates. They choose negative things. They choose people and jobs and even things that have more problems or difficulties which they can't control, than the person already had in their own life. I also find these people, for the most part, to be the kinds who take no responsibility for anything that happens in their own world. The world they filled with negative things and people.
The opposite seems to be true of positive people.
The person who concentrates of the positive aspects in their life usually have less complicated lives and much more easily achieve success as defined by the person who is living this life. Success is such a difficult concept, but I think it's a personal thing to define. The one thing that isn't up for debate is that people who view life from a positive, not Polly Anna, but still light attitude will find happiness. They will find it because they will look for it. Realism should be included in the mix, facing what is real doesn't mean you can't also stay hopeful. That is the balance we should be seeking.
Out with the nay sayers and in with the yes we canners!