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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

IMPERFECT

If there is one subject upon which I can speak with great authority, IF being key here, it would be Imperfect.
I am an admirer of imperfections. I am the embodiment of imperfection. I seek it out. I need it in my life and I have never had a shortage. Imperfections are all around me, all through me and in fact, finding perfect would be a waste of time for me. I don't need perfection because that means the learning is over. The growing stops with perfection. Anything done after perfect removes the perfection. Only a work of art, which stands unchanged forever can achieve and hold perfection. Other things lose their perfection with age or use or improvements. Wine does get better with age, but some turn into vinegar at some point and that is hardly perfect for a vintage wine.

The reason I don't want perfection in my life is because that is just one more thing I am not and don't need to compare myself to perfect.

.A friend of mine said that to her my life looked perfect. When I was able to stop laughing, I replied that it may indeed because the grass is always greener. I do have a pretty good life. I have a lot of love in my life and I am happy a great deal of the time. My life is not perfect. My heart is in a state of repair quite often over one thing or another. I am stressed out about a lot of things a lot of the time, but have learned to think things through and then do what I can do to make it better, but if that isn't possible then to hand over to God anything that I cannot change. I accept what IS and try to move through it with as much grace as I can summon. I accept what IS and pray for strength and wisdom to survive or help someone else survive whatever it is that IS. I can't do more and stressing doesn't make it better or give me peace. It doesn't change what IS and God will do what is to be done regardless of my stress level. So I relinquish all power over what IS and ask only for strength and wisdom for all involved. That isn't perfection, that is living a life I have learned through heartache and tears will go on whether I worried myself sick about something or not. I choose not. I'm not perfect. I make huge gigantic errors in judgement frequently. Why? Why haven't I learned after almost 64 years of life among other people that sometimes it's best to shut-the-hell-up? Because I always believe I am saying something that needs to be heard. I always think I'm helping. I'm not. Know why? Because I'm not perfect. I am, however, perfectly willing to listen to people who need to talk and when asked, sometimes not asked, perfectly willing to share my vast knowledge of a few subjects. I have many opinions. Some of them are founded in life history, mine. Some of them are just feelings or emotional opinions, but any advice I hand out always comes from a loving place and meant only to help or at the very least, get the listener to think for themselves while mulling over what I've spewed at them. Love isn't perfect, but it's constant.

I don't strive to be perfect nor do I seek perfection in my family or friends, I try to love them as they are and hope they will do the same. Perfection is boring and boring I am not.

Jo

12 comments:

  1. Perfection, just as beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.

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    1. Possibility...but I prefer to think that imperfection is beautiful. ♥

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  2. Whew!!! Good thing for me that you don't look for perfection in friends. I'm about as far from perfect as people come! LOL

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    1. Perhaps that is our attraction? It's a good thing to be working toward be a better person, but I also believe we need to accept who we are and understand our strengths while accepting our own weaknesses. I will never be a world class anything; not because I can't, but because I don't want that. I just want to find and share happiness and good health and I want love, always. I want to give it and I want to have it.
      There's no room for perfection in that dream sequence.

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  3. I've heard the Amish always leave an imperfect stitch in their quilts so they don't offend God by trying for perfection. Jo, you are a perfectly, imperfect stitch and I'm always smile in your presence. Carry on.

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    1. What a truly lovely comment. I love being an Amish stitch!

      This is why I 💝 you so much!

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  4. Jo, I think you and I were cut from the same cloth in terms of are imperfections. I just finished reading "Be a Perfect Person in Three Days," by Stephen Manes with my third graders. It's the best kid's book out there on this subject. In the end, Milo learned that perfect is as boring as drinking weak tea! If you have young ones in your life, this chapter book is worth checking out.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for the recommendation, Joyce. I do think kids have a lot of pressure on them to be perfect. I think a lot of adults do as well. I see people in relationships seeking perfection in their mates and often wonder who could live with a perfect mate?

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  5. Perfection is boring - I agree. And what will be will be so why worry. In any case imperfection or perfection is just a matter of perception; Nice post.

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    1. Thank you so much, Suzy and you know I agree 100%. A nice glass of wine helps to accept what IS.

      🍷

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  6. Something on your blog jumped right out at me! Isn't that the truth...sometimes we see things greener on the other side. A bad habit I need to break! Nice blog and I like that you're perfectly willing to do so many nice things. :)

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    1. I think I have spent enough of my precious moments thinking others were happier, prettier, better than me. I now think I am just fine and just enough and just happy to be.
      Doing nice things is the only way to have others do nice things when you need or want them. Get what you give. It works.

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