GBE2 has prompted us with "Ownership" so here is my take on this one. Please let me know if you stopped by ... a quick comment?
In a perfect world people would take ownership of their own actions and words. That would make me a happy woman. I can respect a person who makes a huge mistake, if they just own it. Own it and either explain it or apologize for it, if there is no explaining.
I can hardly bare how much buck passing is done in this world. No one wants to take responsibility for anything they have said or done and it's okay with so many people! I am just appalled at all the shoulder shrugging when someone causes harm to another and then blames everyone or everything except themselves. Here it is, Bucko, plain and simply: If you did it or said it, YOU did it or said it. YOU need to own it. Your parents didn't cause you to do it. Your not having a job didn't cause you to do it. Your emotional weakness may have caused it, but YOU own THAT, as well.
Please parents, can't we raise this next generation to say, "I said that because I wanted you to hear that." Or "I did that and it was really wrong, I'm sorry." "I don't have any idea why I did that, but I know it was a mistake."
Why is that out of the question? It isn't just teenagers or elementary kids who do this, it's middle aged people who have lived long enough to learn all the places they can lay the blame. It's all about every one and every thing in their past. It's never just because they screwed up or had a stupid moment. Sometimes it IS just because you had a stupid moment and, get this now, this is important:
Sometimes you just do stupid things and sometimes you hurt someone by speaking without the benefit of thinking first!
It is okay to admit it and move on. I don't know anyone who hasn't ever done anything wrong or hurtful. But I know a lot of people who never meant to. I also know a lot of people who have never said they were sorry for anything. I think that's a shame. I think it's ridiculous. "I'm sorry" will start the healing~ every time. I have even been known to say, "I'm sorry that I'm so stupid sometimes." Because you know what? Sometimes I'm just stupid. STOOPID.
A lot of serious problems within your own life would go away if you could just make yourself OWN everything you do. Own everything you say and suddenly, you will find people hold you in a little higher esteem.
Own your attributes and own your mistakes. It's all human and it's all good.
You can't own people, but you can own their respect.